What is Self-Doubt And How To Address It




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09 November 2023

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In my Conscious Self-Leadership Master Course, I advocate for a paradigm shift in how we view self-doubt. I emphasize that our internal obstacles, such as self-doubt, are not an enemy to be vanquished but an internal signal to be understood. It serves a purpose, acting as a catalyst for introspection, growth, and even direction. The key isn’t to eradicate our doubts but to recognize and harness them as sources of strength. Just like we use weights to strengthen our bodies, so can inner obstacles be used to strengthen our inner world. In this post, we’ll be looking under the rock and approaching self-doubt with curiosity and compassion to see how we can make it work for us. 

What is Self-Doubt?

Self-doubt refers to a lack of confidence in oneself and one’s abilities. It is a state of mind where an individual questions their talents, skills, or decisions, often leading to hesitation, procrastination, or a failure to act due to the fear of making mistakes, facing judgment, or falling short of expectations.

This internal uncertainty can be a normal and occasional sense of insecurity that everyone experiences at some point. However, when persistent, it can become a significant barrier to personal development, causing people to dismiss their potential and avoid taking risks that could lead to growth and success. 

What Causes Self-Doubt?

Nobody is really exempt from self-doubt, but the level of it ranges from person to person. It can also be activated and spotlighted in different stages of our lives. What amplifies our self-doubt can be varied and complex, often stemming from a combination of genetics, personal experiences, psychological factors, and environmental influences. Some common causes include:

Past Failures or Rejections: Negative experiences, especially those that are particularly impactful or traumatic, can lead to a fear of repeating the same mistakes, causing one to doubt their abilities.

Upbringing and Childhood Experiences: Messages received during childhood from parents, teachers, and peers regarding one’s abilities and worth can significantly influence self-perception and confidence levels.

Comparison with Others: Constantly comparing oneself to others, particularly in today’s social media culture, can lead to feelings of inadequacy and self-doubt.

Perfectionism: Holding oneself to impossibly high standards and striving for perfection can lead to a fear of failure and chronic self-doubt when those standards are not met.

Negative Self-Talk: A habit of thinking negatively about oneself reinforces self-doubt and can become a self-fulfilling prophecy.

Lack of Experience: Being new to a particular skill or field can lead to uncertainty about one’s ability to succeed or perform well.

Societal and Cultural Pressures: Societal expectations and cultural norms about success, appearance, behavior, and other aspects of identity can influence one’s self-confidence.

Overemphasis on External Validation: Relying too heavily on the approval and validation of others can lead to self-doubt when such validation is not forthcoming.

Fear of Judgment or Criticism: Worrying about what others think can cause individuals to doubt their own opinions and decisions.

Are there any benefits to self-doubt? 

While self-doubt is often seen as a negative and limiting mindset, it can have many benefits when experienced in moderation and managed effectively. Self-doubt can serve as a motivator to learn more, practice, and improve. It can drive people to prepare thoroughly and work hard to overcome their perceived deficiencies. 

It can foster humility, preventing arrogance and overconfidence. Acknowledging that one does not have all the answers or know it all can be the impetus for continuous personal growth and learning. A certain degree of self-doubt can lead to a more realistic assessment of one’s abilities and limitations, encouraging a balanced view of oneself.

Being somewhat unsure can lead to caution, which in some circumstances, particularly where there is a lot at stake, can be beneficial for making careful, considered decisions. Self-Doubt it this case and many other cases, acts as protection for risk management. 

Experiencing self-doubt can enhance one’s ability to empathize with others who might be going through similar challenges, leading to more supportive relationships. And we all know that empathy is the blood of any relationship. Also, Those who doubt themselves may be more open to seeking and receiving feedback from others, which can provide valuable insights and guidance and make people feel valued. 

Self-doubt can prevent complacency by ensuring individuals do not become too comfortable with their current achievements and continue striving for growth and development. Sometimes, the uncertainty about the validity of one’s ideas and accomplishments can lead to exploring alternative solutions, forcing creativity and innovation. I’ve experienced that many times throughout my life, and in all honesty, I have to partially thank self-doubt for helping me come to this place where I now live my purpose fully. 

However, it is crucial to strike a balance. Excessive self-doubt can be paralyzing and destructive, while a healthy level can catalyze positive behaviors and outcomes. It’s about using self-doubt constructively as a tool for self-reflection and growth rather than allowing it to become a chronic obstacle.

How do you assess when it’s a good time to address self-doubt issues?

Assessing when to address self-doubt issues can be hard, but it’s crucial for personal development. If 50% or more of your everyday decisions are impacted by indicators below it might be a good time to tackle self-doubt.

Procrastination: If you find yourself constantly putting off tasks or decisions due to fear of failure or judgment.

Inaction: When self-doubt prevents you from taking necessary actions, such as applying for a job, asking for a promotion, or starting a project.

Overthinking: Excessive rumination and second-guessing every decision can be signs that self-doubt is dominating your actions or inactions. 

Avoidance of Challenges: If you’re avoiding new challenges or opportunities because you fear you’re not capable enough, self-doubt might be the culprit.

Feedback Dependency: When your sense of achievement is entirely dependent on external validation and feedback

Lack of Trust in One’s Judgment: If you consistently doubt your own opinions and feel unable to trust your judgment.

Imposter Syndrome: Feeling like a fraud, as if you don’t deserve your accomplishments, is a common experience related to self-doubt.

Low Self-Esteem: Persistent self-doubt often contributes to a negative self-image. If your self-esteem is suffering, it’s important to examine and work through the doubts you have about yourself.

Interpersonal Conflicts: If self-doubt is affecting your relationships, causing you to withdraw or become overly sensitive to criticism, it may be time to address it.

Stagnation in Personal Growth: When self-doubt is holding you back from personal growth, learning, or exploring your potential.

The goal is not to eliminate self-doubt entirely but to manage it effectively so that it becomes a constructive rather than a hindering force in your life. Read further below to explore some of the strategies to manage self-doubt. 

What five things can I do to improve self-doubt?

Understanding the root causes of self-doubt is good but not always necessary. Deciding how to navigate life in the presence of self-doubt is more important. With awareness, one can begin to challenge and change the thought patterns and behaviors that contribute to self-doubt. Moving along life with self-doubt often involves self-reflection, reassurance, a hint of faith, feedback from the people we trust, and positive affirmations that can all bolster our self-esteem, confidence, and sense of self-worth. 

Minimizing the impact of self-doubt on our lives involves building your confidence and changing how you perceive and respond to internal negative dialogues. Here are five actionable steps you can take:

  • Positive Affirmations and Self-Talk:
    • Replace negative thoughts with positive affirmations.
    • Remind yourself of your past successes and strengths.
    • Practice self-compassion and speak to yourself as you would to a good friend.
  • Set Achievable Goals:
    • Break larger tasks into smaller, manageable goals.
    • Celebrate small victories to build confidence.
    • Focus on progress, not perfection, to maintain motivation even when facing setbacks.
  • Seek Constructive Feedback:
    • Ask for feedback from trusted friends, mentors, or colleagues.
    • Use the feedback to learn and improve rather than as a tool for self-criticism.
    • Remember that feedback is about actions and behavior, not your value as a person.
  • Develop New Skills:
    • Identify areas for growth and pursue training or education.
    • Engage in activities that challenge you and take you slightly out of your comfort zone.
    • Understand that skill-building is a process, and mastery takes time.
  • Mindfulness and Reflection:
    • Practice mindfulness to stay present and reduce anxiety about the future or past.
    • Reflect on the triggers of your self-doubt to better understand and address them.
    • Use journaling as a tool for reflection and to track your journey of overcoming self-doubt.

What About Faith as an Antidote To Self-Doubt? 

Faith, in its myriad forms, can be the lighthouse guiding us through the fog of self-doubt. It’s the faith in a higher plan, the trust in our journey, and the belief in our inner compass that together illuminate the path ahead, transforming the unknown into a landscape of possibilities.

Faith usually teaches acceptance of one’s journey, reinforcing the belief that there’s a reason for the way things unfold, which can help individuals accept themselves and their paths.

Practices such as prayer, meditation, and mindfulness, which are often integral parts of faith, can help us center ourselves, focus on the present, and reduce worries that lead to self-doubt. The belief that one is supported by a higher power can alleviate the pressure to have all the answers or to be perfect, reducing feelings of inadequacy and self-doubt.

Incorporating faith into one’s life doesn’t necessarily mean adherence to a particular religion; it can also be a personal sense of trust in the universe, in life’s process, or in one’s own inner guidance. Whichever form it takes, faith can be a potent tool in the journey towards overcoming self-doubt.


I urge you not to see self-doubt as an enemy but rather as an exercising tool that helps us strengthen ourselves on the journey of our destiny. Approach it in a holistic manner, just like any other internal obstacle. 

By acknowledging and embracing our internal challenges, instead of fighting them, we can move forward with them in peace, integrating these experiences into our journey. Acceptance of our internal landscape is the crucial first step in transforming obstacles into stepping stones for personal evolution. 

Rather than a foe lurking within, self-doubt is an inner voice that, when listened to with curiosity and compassion, can be transformative.

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